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Self Care

Stroke of Genius: A Hilarious Guide to Bouncing Back!

LaShawnda

Life is like a game of Mario Kart – you’re cruising along, and then BAM! A banana peel called a stroke comes outta nowhere. But guess what? You’re not just any racer; you’re the one who’s about to make an epic comeback. OH YEA! Welcome to my guide to recovering from a stroke with style, humor, and a whole lot of attitude! LET’S GO!

Mind Games: Outsmarting Brain Farts

So, you’ve got this new sidekick called Brain Farts. Forgot where you left your keys? Couldn’t remember your neighbor’s name? No worries – it’s just your brain doing the cha-cha. Embrace the mental gymnastics with brain games, puzzles, and a sense of humor. It’s like flexing your mental biceps – you’ll be a mental ninja in no time.

Bod Squad: Flexing Those Recovery Muscles

Rehab, my friend, is the new gym – Stroke Gym, that is. Say hello to your personal trainer – Physical Therapist Extraordinaire. Limbs feeling like spaghetti? Time to turn them into noodles of steel. Throw in some funky dance moves, and you’ve got yourself a workout routine that’ll make even Jane Fonda proud. Yea, I said JANE FONDA! IYKYK!

Zen Zingers: Finding Inner Chill

Spiritual renewal, anyone? Meditation, journaling, yoga, or just sitting in a comfy chair contemplating the meaning of life – whatever floats your boat. Inner peace is the new black, and you, my friend, are about to become the trendsetter. DO NOT LET ANYONE MESS WITH YOUR PEACE!

Bank Breakdance: Financial Recovery Boogie

Money got you doing the cha-cha-cha? I feel you! Time to break out the financial recovery boogie. It’s like budgeting but with more pizzazz. Cut unnecessary expenses, make a game plan, and remember – you’re not broke; you’re just pre-rich. GET ON A BUDGET! It is hard in the beginning, but it gets better! Check out The Budget Babe to get a planner that will change your life!

Crew Love: Your Ride-or-Die Support System

Nobody conquers the world alone. Your squad – family, friends, and the occasional nosy neighbor – they’re your ride-or-die crew. Let them in on the joke that life threw at you, and watch how they turn your recovery into a Blockbuster comedy. Laughter truly is the best medicine. I surround myself with good authentic crazy! I love them! Get you a crew! And please, do an inventory of your TRUE friends. No one who smiles in your face and talks behind your back. I mean, not even take up for you in a room that discusses you. Just sayin’.

Life’s a rollercoaster, and strokes are just unexpected loop-de-loops. BELIEVE ME! But guess what? You’re the daredevil ready to conquer them all. Embrace the quirky, funny side of recovery in this unpredictable world. It’s not just a comeback; it’s a stand-up comedy routine starring you. Get ready to laugh, dance, and show life that strokes ain’t got nothin’ on your inner swag. You’re not bouncing back; you’re bouncing back with a mic drop. Boom!

Self Care, Social

Helping Men Feel Safe to Share: Why They Need Support Too

LaShawnda

In a world where people often expect men to be tough and not show their feelings, the idea of creating safe places for men to open up without being judged might sound a bit different. But it’s really important for their emotional well-being. In a world where people often expect men to be tough and not show their feelings, the idea of creating safe places for men to open up without being judged might sound a bit different. But it’s really important for their emotional well-being. Men feel a lot of different things, just like anyone else, and they should have a place where they can talk about their feelings without worrying about what others might think.

The Pressure to Conform

Societal norms and traditional gender roles have historically placed a great deal of pressure on men to conform to certain expectations. Men have been expected to be strong, stoic, and unemotional, often discouraged from displaying vulnerability. This societal pressure can be stifling, leading to emotional suppression and potential mental health issues.

Men, Emotions, and Mental Health

Mental health is a critical aspect of overall well-being. However, the reluctance to express emotions can have detrimental effects on men’s mental health. While it’s important to emphasize that men and women may experience emotions differently, this doesn’t mean that men should be denied the opportunity to express themselves emotionally.

Suppressing emotions and bottling up feelings can lead to various psychological issues, such as depression, anxiety, and anger management problems. It’s crucial to understand that vulnerability and emotional expression are not signs of weakness; rather, they are manifestations of our shared humanity.

The Benefits of Safe Spaces for Men

Creating safe spaces for men to be vulnerable without judgment offers several important advantages:

  1. Improved mental health: Encouraging emotional expression can lead to better mental health outcomes, reducing the likelihood of emotional issues going unaddressed.
  2. Strengthened relationships: Men who can openly express their emotions often find it easier to connect with others and build stronger, more meaningful relationships with friends and family.
  3. Reduced societal pressure: Safe spaces provide men with the opportunity to break free from the constraints of traditional gender norms and be their authentic selves.
  4. Enhanced self-awareness: Emotional expression fosters self-awareness, helping men better understand their feelings, thoughts, and behaviors.
  5. Social support: Safe spaces offer a network of support, where men can share their experiences and find comfort in the knowledge that they are not alone in their struggles.

Creating Safe Spaces

Establishing safe spaces for men to be vulnerable isn’t about excluding women or perpetuating stereotypes; it’s about acknowledging that all individuals, regardless of gender, deserve a space where they can express their emotions openly. Here are some steps we can take to create these spaces:

  1. Encourage open communication: Promote conversations about the importance of emotional expression and its benefits within the family, workplace, and community.
  2. Challenge stereotypes: Encourage critical thinking and dialogue that challenges traditional gender roles and stereotypes, allowing men to be more authentic and emotionally expressive.
  3. Support groups and organizations: Many support groups, counseling services, and mental health organizations offer spaces for men to share their feelings and experiences. These groups can be invaluable resources.
  4. Education and awareness: Raise awareness about the importance of mental health and emotional well-being for men through workshops, seminars, and social media campaigns.
  5. Active listening: Be a good listener. Sometimes, just providing a listening ear can be incredibly supportive.

Men need safe spaces where they can be vulnerable without judgment just as much as women. Emotions are universal, and suppressing them can be harmful to one’s mental health. By creating these spaces, we can encourage men to embrace their emotions, build healthier relationships, and ultimately lead happier, more fulfilling lives. It’s time to challenge societal norms and embrace the idea that vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but a testament to our shared humanity.

Three Questions to Think About:

  1. Why should men be denied the right to express their emotions openly, just like anyone else?
  2. What if suppressing feelings leads to mental health problems and unhappiness? Shouldn’t we do something about it?
  3. Can we create safe spaces where men can be themselves without judgment?

Let’s support the idea of safe spaces for men to be vulnerable. Encourage open conversations, challenge stereotypes, and be a listening ear. It’s time to embrace everyone’s humanity and promote well-being for all. That’s my TEDTalk for today!

Join the movement. It’s as simple as that. #MenMatterToo

Self Care, Uncategorized

MasterPeace

Michelle Niemi

“When you master your mind, you master peace.”

A new, wise friend shared this with me about a month ago and it’s been stuck in my head ever since. Master your mind. Master peace. Masterpiece. It makes so much sense. So simple.. Let’s talk about mental health. I know LaShawnda just touched on the impact of social media on mental health, but let’s talk a little about the darker sides of it and how to get help. I’m no expert but I know a thing or two.

Once a taboo subject, we’re hearing about this everywhere these days. Often we hear about celebrities with mental health issues that have taken their own lives. Or we know someone who has. These were minds in crisis. These were minds that needed attention and help from someone to manage the stress and monsters in the closet that no one else can quite understand. Some people need medication. Others need to simply talk and share. I find myself in that latter category. 

Sometimes life is unbearable. Sometimes we know why, and can point to a person or situation that is causing the breakdown in our minds. Perhaps it is a job or family member or some other stressor that is wreaking havoc. Other times we have absolutely no idea it’s even happening. Some of us are fortunate enough to be self aware and are able to reach out before things turn really dark. Not everyone in a mental health crisis is suicidal or unpredictable. Sometimes we just need a moment to reset and recalibrate.

Mental health days. That’s a new term for those of us in Generation X or before. No one ever talked about these things before but in 1992 the World Federation for Mental Health and the World Health Organization declared October 10th to be a day to increase awareness. Since then, it is not uncommon to hear someone say they need a mental health day. Some organizations and workplace even provide it. What that means is the person is not sick, not on vacation, but just needs a mental break from everything. Everything could be work, working from home, people, daily stressors, anything that is causing a mental struggle.

The truth is, you DO have to master your own mind to have peace. How can you have peace if there is a constant war or struggle going on mentally? Maybe there isn’t even a known cause…maybe it’s some sort of chemical misfire in the brain. Again, I’m not an expert on this subject but know for a fact there have been times I needed a mental health day. There have been times in my life I reached out to counseling professionals to help me through a rough patch in life. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, self-care is not always yoga and bubble baths. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is take a mental break, and if you can’t do it alone, call in an expert to help you. There is nothing wrong with asking for help and that is one of the biggest misconceptions in today’s society. You don’t have to have friends or family to lean on. Maybe they’re the last people on earth you would want to vent or talk to. We have a world of first class counselors, therapists, and support groups at our disposal.

Therapy is not always costly. If you don’t have insurance, there are plenty of options available. Look around. If you live in Michigan, go to: https://www.opencounseling.com/michigan.

Or look here at https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists. If you live in another state or country, Google is your friendly resource to help.

If you or someone you know is suicidal, please call: the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988.

Master your mind. Master peace. Best advice ever.

Marriage, Self Care, Social

When a Man Leaves You: What to Avoid and How to Heal

LaShawnda

Breakups are never easy, and when a man you once loved decides to leave, it can leave you feeling heartbroken and lost. While it’s natural to experience a mix of emotions during this time, it’s essential to take care of yourself and navigate the healing process in a healthy way. In this blog, we’ll explore some key things to avoid and essential steps to take when a man leaves you, helping you find strength and healing in the midst of this difficult time.

Avoid Blaming Yourself:
One of the first things to avoid when a man leaves you is blaming yourself for the breakup. Remember that relationships involve two people, and it’s rarely a one-sided issue. It’s natural to feel hurt and wonder what went wrong, but internalizing all the blame can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. Instead, recognize that relationships can be complex, and sometimes they don’t work out for reasons beyond your control.

Give Yourself Time to Grieve:
Allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or confused during this period. Suppressing your emotions may only prolong the healing process. Surround yourself with supportive friends or family who can lend a listening ear and provide comfort during this challenging time.

Avoid Rebounding:
Resist the temptation to jump into a new relationship immediately after a breakup. While it’s normal to seek companionship and distract yourself from the pain, rebound relationships rarely lead to genuine connections. Take the time to focus on yourself and understand what you truly want from future relationships.

Cut Off Contact (at least temporarily):
While it might be tempting to stay friends with your ex, maintaining regular contact may hinder the healing process. Consider cutting off contact (at least temporarily) to give yourself space and time to move on. Constant reminders of the past can make it difficult to look forward and embrace new opportunities.

Seek Professional Support if Needed:
If you find it challenging to cope with the emotional turmoil after the breakup, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Speaking with a therapist or counselor can provide valuable insights and coping strategies, helping you process your emotions and develop a healthier outlook on relationships.

Avoid Seeking Validation from Others:
Seeking validation from others to boost your self-esteem may feel like a quick fix, but it’s not a sustainable solution. Instead, focus on self-improvement and nurturing your self-worth from within. Engage in activities that make you feel happy and accomplished, whether it’s pursuing a hobby, career goals, or personal growth.

Allow Yourself to Love Again:
It’s normal to feel guarded after a breakup, but don’t let fear prevent you from opening your heart to love again. Remember that every relationship is unique, and finding the right person may take time. Be patient with yourself and the process.

Experiencing a breakup can be incredibly challenging, but it can also be an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. When a man leaves you, it’s crucial to avoid self-blame, give yourself time to heal and surround yourself with supportive people. Focus on self-improvement, seek professional support if needed, and remember that love will find its way back into your life when the time is right. Embrace the journey of healing, and you’ll emerge stronger and more resilient than ever before.

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When a Man is Wasting Your Time: Recognizing Red Flags and Taking Control

LaShawnda

In the journey of finding a meaningful and fulfilling relationship, we encounter various people with whom we hope to build something special. However, not every encounter leads to a lasting connection, and at times, we may find ourselves entangled with someone who seems to be wasting our time. While it’s essential to approach relationships with an open heart, it’s equally important to recognize when a man may not be fully committed or sincere in his intentions. In this blog post, we will explore some telltale signs that indicate when a man is wasting your time and how to regain control of your romantic life.

Lack of Consistency

One of the clearest indicators that a man might be wasting your time is inconsistency in his behavior. He may shower you with affection and attention one day, only to become distant and aloof the next. This hot-and-cold behavior can leave you feeling confused and emotionally drained, making it challenging to build trust and a solid foundation for a genuine connection.

Ambiguity about the Relationship

Another red flag to watch out for is a man’s reluctance to define the relationship. If he avoids discussing the future or constantly sidesteps any talk about commitment, it’s a clear sign that he may not be serious about a long-term relationship with you. Don’t settle for someone who keeps you in a state of perpetual uncertainty.

Prioritizing Other Aspects of Life

While it’s natural for everyone to have priorities outside of a relationship, a man who consistently prioritizes other aspects of his life over spending quality time with you may not be fully invested. If he frequently cancels plans or doesn’t make an effort to fit you into his life, it’s a signal that you might not be a significant priority for him.

Lack of Emotional Availability

For any relationship to flourish, emotional availability and vulnerability are crucial. If a man avoids opening up about his feelings or appears distant when you share yours, it could indicate that he is emotionally unavailable. It’s essential to be with someone who reciprocates your emotional investment and supports your emotional needs.

Resisting Compromise and Communication

Effective communication and the willingness to compromise are vital for any relationship to thrive. If you find that your partner consistently refuses to address conflicts or dismisses your concerns, it can lead to frustration and resentment. A man who isn’t willing to work through challenges with you may not be genuinely interested in building a healthy and lasting relationship.

Focusing on Superficial Aspects

If a man seems overly focused on superficial aspects of the relationship, such as appearance, material possessions, or societal status, it may indicate that he values shallow qualities over meaningful connection and compatibility. A relationship built on superficialities is unlikely to stand the test of time.

Taking Control and Moving Forward

Recognizing when a man is wasting your time is the first step towards reclaiming control of your romantic life. Here are some steps you can take to move forward:

Trust Your Instincts: Listen to your gut feelings and intuition. If something feels off, don’t ignore it.

Set Boundaries: Define what you want and need from a relationship, and don’t be afraid to communicate those boundaries clearly.

Communicate Openly: Have honest conversations about your expectations and feelings. If the man isn’t receptive or doesn’t respect your concerns, it may be time to reassess the relationship.

Focus on Self-Growth: Invest time in your personal development, hobbies, and interests. Building a fulfilling life outside of a romantic relationship will empower you.

Be Willing to Walk Away: Remember that you deserve a partner who values and respects you. Don’t be afraid to walk away from a relationship that isn’t meeting your needs.

Recognizing when a man is wasting your time is essential for your emotional well-being and self-worth. By paying attention to red flags and taking control of your romantic life, you can create space for a meaningful and fulfilling relationship with someone who truly appreciates and values you. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who is as committed to building a lasting connection as you are.

Self Care

Remembering Who TF You Are!

LaShawnda

Today, I want to talk about something that often gets lost in the chaos and noise of our busy lives: remembering who the fuck you are. It’s so easy to get caught up in societal expectations, other people’s opinions, and the constant comparison game that we often forget our true selves. But fear not, my friend, for I’m here to remind you to reclaim your authentic self and embrace the power that lies within. You know the drill! So let’s go with the tips, shall we?

  1. Peel Off the Masks: We live in a world where we wear various masks, presenting different versions of ourselves to fit into different situations. It’s time to strip away those layers and rediscover the person underneath. Take a moment to reflect on your true desires, passions, and values. What makes your heart sing? Embrace your quirks, uniqueness, and let your genuine self shine through.
  2. Uncover Your Core Values: Identifying your core values is like mapping out the compass that guides your life. What principles and beliefs do you hold dear? Is it honesty, compassion, adventure, or creativity? When you align your actions with your values, you’ll find a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose. Embrace these values and let them shape your decisions and interactions.
  3. Embrace Your Strengths and Flaws: We all have strengths that make us shine and flaws that make us human. It’s time to accept both sides of the coin. Celebrate your accomplishments, talents, and skills. But don’t shy away from your imperfections. These flaws are part of your story, part of what makes you relatable and beautiful. Embracing them allows you to grow and become the best version of yourself.
  4. Reconnect with Your Passions: When life gets overwhelming, we often let go of the things that bring us joy. But your passions are an integral part of who you are. Take the time to rediscover what lights that fire within you. Whether writing, painting, dancing, or cooking, immerse yourself in activities that make you come alive. These passions will remind you of your purpose and reignite the spark of your true self.
  5. Surround Yourself with Authenticity: The company we keep significantly influences our journey of self-discovery. Surround yourself with people who accept and love you for who you are. Build a tribe of individuals who inspire and support you on your path. Authentic connections foster growth, challenge you to improve and remind you of your true worth.

Hey, in a world that constantly tries to mold us into something we’re not, it’s crucial to REMEMBER who the fuck you are. Embrace your authenticity, uncover your values, and reconnect with your passions. Celebrate your strengths and accept your flaws. And always remember to surround yourself with genuine souls who encourage your growth. The journey to self-discovery is a lifelong one, but when you remember who you are at the core, you can navigate life with confidence and purpose. So go, be great, and let your true self shine!

Stay true, stay fierce, and always REMEMBER WHO THE FUCK YOU ARE!

Now that’s my TED TALK for today!

Self Care

Embracing Your True Self: The Power of Self-Love

LaShawnda

In a world that often emphasizes perfection and conformity, it’s easy to feel the pressure to fit into certain molds or meet unrealistic standards. However, true happiness and fulfillment can only be achieved when we learn to love and accept ourselves for who we truly are. Self-love is not just a fleeting feeling; it is a lifelong journey of embracing our strengths, acknowledging our flaws, and nurturing our authentic selves. In this blog post, we will explore the significance of loving who you are and provide actionable tips on cultivating self-love in your life.

  1. Embrace Your Uniqueness: Each of us is a unique individual, with a combination of qualities, experiences, and perspectives that make us who we are. Embrace your quirks, talents, and interests, and celebrate the things that set you apart from others. Remember, it is these distinct qualities that make you special and contribute to the richness of the world.
  2. Practice Self-Compassion: We all make mistakes and experience setbacks along the way. Instead of being overly critical of yourself, practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness, understanding, and forgiveness you would extend to a dear friend. Embrace that you are a work in progress and that growth and self-improvement are continuous processes.
  3. Focus on Inner Beauty: While society often emphasizes external appearances, true beauty emanates from within. Cultivate qualities such as kindness, empathy, gratitude, and resilience. Nourish your mind, body, and soul through self-care practices that promote overall well-being. By nurturing your inner beauty, you will radiate confidence and attract positivity into your life.
  4. Set Healthy Boundaries: Loving yourself means honoring your own needs and setting healthy boundaries. Learn to say no when necessary, prioritize self-care, and surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Setting boundaries will protect your emotional well-being and allow you to focus on what truly matters to you.
  5. Practice Self-Reflection: Take the time for self-reflection and introspection. Explore your values, passions, and goals. Understand what brings you joy and fulfillment, and align your actions with your authentic self. Regularly check in with yourself, assess your growth, and make adjustments as needed to stay true to who you are.
  6. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Choose to surround yourself with positive influences. Surrounding yourself with supportive and encouraging individuals who celebrate your uniqueness and encourage your personal growth will contribute to your overall self-love journey. Seek out inspirational books, podcasts, or online communities that promote self-love and personal development.

Loving who you are is not always easy, but it is one of the most empowering and rewarding journeys you can embark upon. Embrace your true self, practice self-compassion, and set healthy boundaries. Focus on nurturing your inner beauty, reflect on your values, and surround yourself with positivity. Remember, self-love is a lifelong commitment, and by embracing and accepting who you are, you pave the way for a more fulfilling and joyful life. Embrace your uniqueness, and let your light shine brightly for the world to see.