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MasterPeace

Michelle Niemi

“When you master your mind, you master peace.”

A new, wise friend shared this with me about a month ago and it’s been stuck in my head ever since. Master your mind. Master peace. Masterpiece. It makes so much sense. So simple.. Let’s talk about mental health. I know LaShawnda just touched on the impact of social media on mental health, but let’s talk a little about the darker sides of it and how to get help. I’m no expert but I know a thing or two.

Once a taboo subject, we’re hearing about this everywhere these days. Often we hear about celebrities with mental health issues that have taken their own lives. Or we know someone who has. These were minds in crisis. These were minds that needed attention and help from someone to manage the stress and monsters in the closet that no one else can quite understand. Some people need medication. Others need to simply talk and share. I find myself in that latter category. 

Sometimes life is unbearable. Sometimes we know why, and can point to a person or situation that is causing the breakdown in our minds. Perhaps it is a job or family member or some other stressor that is wreaking havoc. Other times we have absolutely no idea it’s even happening. Some of us are fortunate enough to be self aware and are able to reach out before things turn really dark. Not everyone in a mental health crisis is suicidal or unpredictable. Sometimes we just need a moment to reset and recalibrate.

Mental health days. That’s a new term for those of us in Generation X or before. No one ever talked about these things before but in 1992 the World Federation for Mental Health and the World Health Organization declared October 10th to be a day to increase awareness. Since then, it is not uncommon to hear someone say they need a mental health day. Some organizations and workplace even provide it. What that means is the person is not sick, not on vacation, but just needs a mental break from everything. Everything could be work, working from home, people, daily stressors, anything that is causing a mental struggle.

The truth is, you DO have to master your own mind to have peace. How can you have peace if there is a constant war or struggle going on mentally? Maybe there isn’t even a known cause…maybe it’s some sort of chemical misfire in the brain. Again, I’m not an expert on this subject but know for a fact there have been times I needed a mental health day. There have been times in my life I reached out to counseling professionals to help me through a rough patch in life. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, self-care is not always yoga and bubble baths. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is take a mental break, and if you can’t do it alone, call in an expert to help you. There is nothing wrong with asking for help and that is one of the biggest misconceptions in today’s society. You don’t have to have friends or family to lean on. Maybe they’re the last people on earth you would want to vent or talk to. We have a world of first class counselors, therapists, and support groups at our disposal.

Therapy is not always costly. If you don’t have insurance, there are plenty of options available. Look around. If you live in Michigan, go to: https://www.opencounseling.com/michigan.

Or look here at https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists. If you live in another state or country, Google is your friendly resource to help.

If you or someone you know is suicidal, please call: the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988.

Master your mind. Master peace. Best advice ever.

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Nurturing Masculinity: Therapy and Healing for Men with Childhood and Self Issues

LaShawnda

In a society that often places pressure on men to be strong and self-reliant, it can be challenging for them to acknowledge and seek help for their childhood and self-related issues. However, therapy offers a transformative space for men to explore their past, confront deep-rooted wounds, and embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery. In this blog entry, we will delve into the importance of therapy for men with childhood and self-issues, highlighting the potential benefits and debunking common misconceptions.

1. Unveiling the Layers: Childhood and Self Issues

Men, like women, can carry emotional baggage from childhood experiences that shape their sense of self. Childhood trauma, neglect, or invalidation can lead to issues such as low self-esteem, unresolved anger, emotional disconnection, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships. These issues may manifest in self-sabotaging behaviors, emotional withdrawal, or a persistent sense of emptiness. Therapy provides a safe and non-judgmental space to unravel these layers and foster healing.

2. Breaking the Stigma: Overcoming Barriers to Therapy

Seeking therapy is often stigmatized, especially for men who are expected to be self-reliant and stoic. However, it is crucial to challenge these societal expectations and recognize that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Therapy offers an opportunity for men to confront their vulnerabilities, develop self-awareness, and build healthier coping mechanisms. By breaking the stigma, men can reclaim their power and transform their lives.

3. A Journey of Self-Exploration: Discovering Authenticity

Therapy allows men to embark on a journey of self-exploration, providing a supportive environment for them to reconnect with their authentic selves. Through introspection and guided reflection, they can gain insight into their emotions, behaviors, and beliefs. Therapy empowers men to challenge societal expectations and cultivate a more authentic version of masculinity that aligns with their actual values and desires.

4. Healing Childhood Wounds: Resolving Trauma and Emotional Pain

Childhood trauma and unresolved issues can continue to impact men’s lives in significant ways. Therapy offers a space to process and heal these wounds. Through evidence-based techniques such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR), or psychodynamic therapy, men can gain tools to navigate their past, release emotional pain, and develop healthier coping strategies. Healing childhood wounds is a vital step toward cultivating self-worth and living a more fulfilling life.

5. Embracing Growth and Empowerment: Tools for Self-Transformation

Therapy equips men with valuable tools and strategies for self-transformation. From developing emotional intelligence and communication skills to learning healthy boundary-setting and assertiveness, therapy empowers men to navigate challenges with confidence and resilience. By embracing personal growth, men can reshape their identities, foster more beneficial relationships, and find greater fulfillment in their lives.

Therapy offers a transformative journey for men with childhood and self issues, enabling them to heal, grow, and embrace their authentic selves. By breaking through societal stigmas and seeking help, men can embark on a path of self-exploration, healing childhood wounds, and cultivating healthier coping mechanisms. Therapy provides a safe and supportive space for men to confront their vulnerabilities and develop the tools necessary to navigate life’s challenges. As we redefine masculinity, it is essential to recognize the importance of therapy in nurturing emotional well-being and fostering personal growth for men.